100 Self-Date Activities

One of the keys to true happiness is learning to enjoy your own company, and this list of 100 self-date activities will help you do just that. Whether you have one friend or one hundred, and whether you’re introverted or extroverted, feeling comfortable spending time alone is the ultimate sign of self-love.

Choosing to spend time on your own reflects a respect for your boundaries and interests. Traditional dates are great, but they often require compromise – and sometimes, we just don’t want to, and that’s okay! Solo dates, on the other hand, involve no compromise because there’s no one else to please. With 100 self-date activities to choose from, you’ll easily find one that aligns with exactly what you want to do.

Self-dates also allow you to connect with yourself on a deeper level. By trying out different activities, you’ll discover more about your likes and dislikes, and you might even pick up a new hobby or two along the way.

One of my goals this year is to prioritise self-dates, which is why I’ve created a list of 100 self-date activities to work through over the year. I encourage you to do the same – by the end of the year, you’ll feel more in tune with your true self than ever before.

This list includes all sorts of solo dates, so you can pick depending on your mood (and the weather!). From chilling at home to getting your adrenaline pumping, this article includes all you need to create your solo date bucket list.

Before we get into the 100 self-date activities, here’s some tips on how to get the most your solo dates.

100 Self-Date Activities: Tips for making the Most of your date

1. Be present

Solo dates are all about getting to know yourself, and it can be difficult to do this if your thoughts are focused on other people, work, or a pile of laundry you need to sort through.

So, however difficult it might be, try to practise mindfulness while you’re on your solo date. Put your phone on Do Not Disturb and focus on whatever you’re doing – it will make a difference!

2. Set an intention

Setting an intention will help you to get more out of your solo date. Whether your intention is to relax, get creative, or just have fun, choosing something to focus on will ultimately help the date feel more fulfilling.

3. Treat it like a real date

Treating your solo date as if it’s a real date is crucial for distinguishing it from your average alone time. Get dressed up if it makes you feel good, and make an effort to make it as exciting as possible!

4. Step out of your comfort zone

Doing things on our own that we would typically only do with company requires that you embrace the discomfort. It might feel a little nerve-wrecking the first few times, but as you make your way through the list you’ll grow in confidence and slowly start to fall in love with alone time.

5. Reflect afterwards

Take 5 or 10 minutes after your solo date to reflect on the experience. Ask yourself if you enjoyed it, which parts you liked or didn’t like, and what you learnt about yourself. Jotting your thoughts down in a journal will help you process the experience, plus you’ll have a record of your journey to self-discovery.

Now that you’re equipped with all the tips you need, let’s get in to the 100 self-date activities.

Relaxing Solo Date Ideas

Feeling overwhelmed or anxious? A relaxing solo date is a helpful way to switch-off and calm your mind. These solo dates are perfect after a stressful day at work or school, and will leave you feeling calm, collected, and more equipped to deal with whatever stresses your facing:

11. Visit a spa or create a spa day at home.
12. Read a book at a cosy café.
13. Take a long bubble bath with candles and music.
14. Watch a sunrise or sunset.
15. Meditate in a scenic park.
16. Listen to a soothing podcast or audiobook.
17. Do a face mask and enjoy a cup of tea.
18. Lie in a hammock and daydream.
19. Journal about your goals or dreams.
20. Have a nap in a quiet, cosy spot.

Active Solo Dates

Sometimes we just need to get moving and an active solo date is perfect way to show your body some love and blow off some steam. These suggestions include peaceful walks or energising workouts, so you can pick whatever your body feels like:

21. Go for a long hike.
22. Take a yoga or Pilates class.
23. Rent a bike and explore your city.
24. Try rock climbing or bouldering.
25. Swim at a local pool or beach.
26. Take a dance class or dance around your room.
27. Go rollerblading or ice skating.
28. Play a sport solo (tennis against a wall, basketball).
29. Walk a new scenic route.
30. Try paddle boarding or kayaking.

Cultural Solo Dates

Cultural solo dates double up as an educational experience and an act of self-care. These ideas are the perfect opportunity to learn more about yourself and broaden your perspective, making them a life-enriching experience:

31. Visit a museum or art gallery.
32. Go to a local history site.
33. Attend a film festival or indie movie screening.
34. Watch a play or musical.
35. Explore a library or bookshop.
36. Tour a historic home or landmark.
37. Visit a botanical garden.
38. Explore a street art district.
39. Go to a classical music concert.
40. Check out an open mic night.

Foodie Solo Dates

Out of all the suggestions on the list, a foodie solo date gets me the most excited. I find it difficult to think of a better past-time than eating good food, and these self-date ideas allow you to do just that:

41. Go to a new restaurant and try something different.
42. Have a picnic with your favourite snacks.
43. Bake or cook a recipe you’ve never tried.
44. Visit a farmer’s market and buy fresh produce.
45. Take yourself out for brunch.
46. Try a food truck you’ve never visited.
47. Go on a coffee shop tour.
48. Taste-test international cuisine.
49. Make a charcuterie board just for yourself.
50. Attend a wine or food tasting event.

Adventurous Solo Dates

These suggestions are full all my adrenaline junkies. Albeit these ideas might require a little more planning, they’re perfect for when you want to release some endorphins and get your blood pumping.

51. Book a day trip to a nearby town.
52. Go ziplining or try an adventure park.
53. Take a hot air balloon ride.
54. Explore an abandoned building (safely!).
55. Try indoor skydiving.
56. Camp solo in your backyard or a nearby site.
57. Do a scavenger hunt in your city.
58. Take a train ride to nowhere and explore.
59. Try geocaching.
60. Go stargazing with a telescope or blanket.

Productive Solo Dates

Ok, so a productive solo date might not necessarily sound like your idea of fun, but they can actually be really therapeutic. If you’re feeling like you’ve been procrastinating a little too much lately, or just want to get stuff done, romanticising your to-do list by turning it into a solo date is a great solution:

61. Declutter and organise a space in your home.
62. Learn a new skill online (e.g., coding, photography).
63. Plan your week or month ahead.
64. Create a budget or financial plan.
65. Take an online class or workshop.
66. Deep clean your home while listening to music.
67. Start a side hustle or passion project.
68. Research and plan your next vacation.
69. Write a letter to your future self.
70. Update your resume/CV or LinkedIn profile.

Nature-Inspired Solo Dates

Spending time outdoors can be a helpful way to relax and improve your mood. I often find the moment I step outside my problems feel a little less all-consuming. Wait for a day when the sun is shining and enjoy these activities:

71. Go birdwatching in a park or nature reserve.
72. Plant flowers or vegetables in your garden.
73. Take a photography walk in nature.
74. Explore a national park or forest.
75. Sit by a lake or river and enjoy the peace.
76. Collect seashells or interesting rocks.
77. Volunteer at a community garden.
78. Go foraging (with guidance on what’s safe!).
79. Watch wildlife in their natural habitat.
80. Take a book and read under a tree.

Solo Self-Discovery Dates

Self-date ideas specifically for self-discovery are perfect if you want to learn more about yourself and your values. Carving out time for some self-reflection is a productive way to deepen your understanding of who you are, what you truly enjoy, and what you want from life.

81. Try journaling prompts for self-reflection.
82. Take yourself on a “first date” – dress up and enjoy.
83. Make a list of things you’re grateful for.
84. Write out your life story or timeline.
85. Create a bucket list and brainstorm how to start.
86. Record a voice note talking about your goals.
87. Reflect on old photos and what they mean to you.
88. Try a guided visualisation meditation.
89. Spend a day completely offline.
90. Practice saying affirmations out loud.

Playful Solo Dates

Playful solo dates are a great way to connect with your inner child. The suggestions on this list are activities that gave me some of my best childhood memories, and are a great way to revisit the things that made us happiest as children:

91. Go to an arcade or play old-school games.
92. Have a movie marathon with snacks.
93. Build a fort with blankets and watch a favourite film.
94. Go bowling or play mini-golf by yourself.
95. Try a new board game or puzzle.
96. Make a playlist of songs that make you happy.
97. Go thrifting and hunt for unique finds.
98. Visit a zoo or aquarium.
99. Try karaoke at home.
100. Dance around your room.

Final thoughts

Now you have you have 100 self-date activities to choose from, it’s time to start planning. Try finding time for one or two a week, and you’ll be well on the way to loving your alone time! Remember, it’s a time to treat yourself with kindess and respect, so make it a priority to try and enjoy it as much as possible.

Looking for more self-love ideas? Check out my list of journal prompts for self-love for some journaling inspiration!